Growing through changes...

Well its one thing to look young and another thing to feel young and then to actually be young. Yesterday my little brother the youngest in the family returned from his holiday in Spain with his girlfriend, Although he is the youngest in the family, he is no longer the little brother he used to be. he is all grown up. 19 years old at 190cm tall, and me 24 at a measly 160cm. 

Me and My brother back in 2007 in France

My brother in 2007 in France

Me, Mom, Brother, His Girlfriend, My sister September 2012

Me (looking scary) and My brother on my birthday April 2013

In he came with his suitcase full of all the stories of his holiday, the mistakes he made the trips they took  and so on, It made me nostalgic for my first trip i took without my family to China, I can remember the ups and downs and everything, the argument i had with my mom the night before i flew, the wonderful sights and i saw there, the excitement. 

Me in China, The year of the OX

But there is one thing i feel guilty about, it only dawned on me just now while typing this. Yesterday when my brother got back the first thing my sister said is "Iain where are our gifts?????" that was the most important thing for her, when i went to china i never bought a specific gift for her. II received a lot of jewelry when i was over there and i told her to pick what she liked. I  don't know why, and I think in her own way she still resents me for that in her own way. Its never ever came up. 

My brother produced 4 purses our of his suitcase, and handed me the white and pink one, and then took out 3 similar looking dark rustic coloured purses and handed them to my sister and told her, You. Mom, and Grandma can fight over these. 

I know myself i am probably the easiest person to shop for because if its pink i will love it lol! Anyway I have learned that the most important thing for people is gifts you can give to them and doing it right, putting a bit of thought into the gifts you give even if its just a trinket is important. 

Forgive and Forget

Hi Everyone, 

Greetings from Ireland, let me wipe away the dust and grime from my keyboard and computer screen, I literally can't remember the last time I wrote anything here, The year of the dragon and the year of the snake have not been kind to us, Especially the Snake and that is supposed to be my year after all i was born in the year of the snake 1989. 

I don't want to write this post and fill you all with doom and gloom, but sometimes you just have to accept reality, I remember when i started this blog my biggest worry was to sort out my boyfriends visa problems and we accomplished that paid the solicitor fees, and now we have even bigger hurdles facing us. I hope were going to be strong together and tackle them. 

I know most of the people who read this blog are interested in Asian/ white female relationships, but you know in reality there actually not that different from any ordinary relationship, you still face the same issues, All girls want security and to feel safe, and to live debt free and to be able to trust one another. 

People make mistakes you have to forgive them, if your in it for the long haul. which i hope i am. 

Don't do it!

I repeat don't do it, under no circumstances help a friend get a job in the place where you work, I honest to god don't know what I was thinking, me and my big mouth.

Back in June I met up with my friend the same friend from "Break ups suck especially over Facebook" She was in the middle of doing a Fas Computer course and she was telling me she is having difficulty finding work experience (now I am not surprised why......) and I stupidly blurted out, why not try my work, they are always taking on Interns, at the moment there is me and the 2 French girls....

She straight away thought this was a great idea, and even me at the time thought it was a great idea, how cool would it be to work with one of my old good friends? Surprisingly uncool as i later found out.

The very next day she applied and two days later she was invited to an interview. During those two days I mentioned the idea to my mom and my mom told me its a very bad idea... too late. She had got the work experience and was due to start the first week in August.

So from June to August I brushed the whole thing under the table and pretended it hadn't happened. Then the weekend before she was due to start, I started to get very nervous. What was I thinking? Everything she does is going to reflect back on me... Oh god, Oh god. I couldn't talk to my boyfriend or mom about it because I knew they would all say its my own fault.

Her first day went fine, but I knew by day 2 I had made a horrible mistake, Day 2 first thing in the morning she text me, "Hi i know this sounds bad but can you tell the boss I am sick today?" It definitely sounded bad and i decided right then and there i am not getting involved so I text her back and told her to call the boss herself because A were both adults and its not school, and B I absolutely wanted to distance myself from the whole fiasco.

Since day 2 she has proceeded to take sick days, I'd say she's taken more sick days than the whole company worth of people put together.

So there you have it, never ever work with friends. I will bear this in mind when I start my own company one day LOL.

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Bonjour!

Yesterday I had a French Dinner party, with my 2 French friends from work, they are both doing an internship like me, Neither of them are the rude coworker I was talking about in the last post, The last thing I would want to do on a Saturday night is to spend time with her, things have improved at work with her but not dramatically she still gets on my nerves every now and again. This week I had a realization about why she ticks me off. Its because she reminds me of my Mom, The way she talks to me is like how my Mom talks to me when she's giving out to me,

Anyway back to the dinner party, We all agreed to make one dish each and bring it, I was in charge of the starter, Laura was in charge of the Main course and Chloe was in charge of the dessert.

For the Starter I made Fish Cakes, with a little (a lot of) assistance from my boyfriend, I think if I was makeing it by myself it would of been store bought garlic bread heated up in the oven lol.

not as cute as these lol

Laura made Burritos for the main course, I had never tried Burritos before, but it turns out they're pretty much the same as fajitas without the cheese and sour cream sauce,

Then for dessert Chloe bought Terramisu, She didn't have time to cook it.. But nevermind.

We were planning to have Tequila puffs at the dinner party, but quickly changed our mind when we found out tequila costs 24.99 Euro :O:O Crazy price, so instead we had wine and Smirnoff Ice and Rum. Lets say I woke up with a bit of a headache this morning lol.

We spent the whole night listening to French Rap, The only French Rapper I had ever heard was La Fouine!!!!!  They introduced me to a lot more,


I got home at about 2 and my boyfriend woke me up at 8 this morning ouch, He had to go to work. But all in all it was a good night. :)

Did you all have a good weekend? How much does Tequila normally cost anyway?