A male friend

During the past few months away from my blog I did a series of courses, My chinese course, I am now on Level 3, My boyfriend says I am now as good as a senior infants child. basically a kid who is in their second year of primary school.

My French friend from class said my boyfriend has a great way of complementing people lol. But I took it on board as a good thing. Anyway other than that friend the rest of the people in my Chinese class are much older than me.

But asides from that course I also did a CV and interview skills course and that course had more people my own age, including one guy who went to school with one of my old friends and at the beginning of the course I talked about my boyfriend and how I was learning Chinese.

But at the end of the course this guy Johnathon, asked me for my phone number and I was a bit surprised to say the least but didn't see any harm in it. I come against this situation so often, people sometimes men or women asking me for my phone number and i don't particularly want them to have my phone number. What can i do or say? sorry I don't have a mobile, sorry i don't think its appropriate for you to have my phone number? Then I just seem like a big bitch. 

But within a few days he was texting me and asking do I want to meet up blah blah.  out of politeness and thinking theres no harm, I met him in dun laoighraire, and it was going fine, we were having a nce chat, then he started trying to pay for things for me and then alarm bells started ringing and I had to get out of there. Then we ended the meet up with a hand shake which was a bit weird, Then after that day I started avoiding him as if he had the plague.

Then I was at my families house on Friday chatting to my mom and told her about what happened and my mom said Sarah you have to be more careful, A man and a woman can never remain just friends ever. To me this statement seems terribly old fashioned. I mean its the 21st century surely a man and a woman can stay just friends if they want. 

I don't often talk about Africans in my blog but recently I was talking to one of my african male friends. The topic of female friends came up and he said no matter whether a woman is married, single, separated, divorced. If a male and a female are in a house together alone something is going to happen. He personally doesn't allow his girlfriend to have any of his friends numbers, in case there is temptation. In particular African male friends. I really thought this was too extreme.  (By the way we weren't alone lol)

My boyfriend doesn't mind me having his friends numbers because he knows nothing would ever happen with them but he hates other strange men he doesn't know having my number. Its funny how different cultures see things. 

Trip down memory lane

This week has been quite traumatic for me, My sister decided that we are going to redecorate our bedroom and everything must go. So we started the massive clear out on Monday, I had to say good bye to my Sylvanian families collection, Beanie Baby collection,  Cabbage patch kids collection and Pokemon sticker collection and so on.

I didn't want to throw away anything. I wanted to keep the old battered desk and chair, the old dolls cot. everything!!!! but my sister pushed and pushed until it was all gone and until I had no choice but to accept that yes I am passed it.

But nevertheless during the big massive clear out, I did find somethings that, although they were not lost, they were forgotten and discarded such as my good old Gameboy colour, that I hadn't seen for about a century and penpal letters from when i was 15.

I held onto them. and now I think i have the penpal bug again. I think I want to start penpaling again. I haven't asked my boyfriend about it yet. But i still remember the old penpal website i used to use.

I brought my old gameboy to my boyfriends appartment and he got really excited and told me about how when he was a kid his neighbour had relatives living in Japan who sent one to his nieghbour and he begged his mom to buy one but they were always to expensive... Anyway now he has decided he wants to get a gameboy the new one Nintendo Gameboy 3DS I

I think its a really bad idea lol. He will be glued to it. and its sure to bring about a load of fights.

Anyway the decorators arrived on wednesday morning and our new colour scheme is purple. You name it, bed cover, curtains, wallpaper, chair, dressing table, mirror, lamp, lamp shade etc to be honest i didn't get much say in the matter I personally would of gone for turquoise but nevermind. When its all finished I will take a picture!

Happy Birthday my dear friend

Yesterday I was invited to my old secondary school friend Anna's Birthday Night out, We have known each other since we were 8 years old and we used to share everything in secondary school, She was the first person I told when I had my first kiss, She was the person I confided in that my father was having an affair, she was the person I confided in when me and my ex boyfriend were going through a difficult time. Likewise she confided in me with so much more like her engagement dilemma, boy dilemmas, family dilemmas and so on. Anyway she is one of my longest friends.

Me and Anna (2007)

However when I started college our paths kind of diverged, I went down the academic route. She struggled to accomplish her dream of becoming a childminder or a Montessori teacher. After almost 4 years of being on the waiting list she has finally got her place. Congratulations!!

So last night was her 21st birthday celebration, I am 21 as well going to Night clubs, dancing, chasing after boys should be normal for me. But it isn't I haven't been "single" since 2007. I seem to float from one thing to  the next  Anyway as a result I rarely went to nightclubs I just wasn't that interested. 

I just felt so weird going in there, having a boyfriend, not being able to engage in getting chatted up, just dancing with the girls. I felt like I was missing out on something. Anna has a boyfriend and she enjoyed herself immensely but her boyfriend was there dancing beside her..

Anna and Stephen

My boyfriend was absent :( I hope I can bring him there sometime so I can enjoy the same feeling of being with someone at a nightclub.