I do,

I do, I do, I do, 
lol, wedding season in Ireland, On Tuesday I attended my chinese friends wedding, it was the first Chinese wedding i have ever been to. But actually not only that it was only the second wedding i have ever been to, The first wedding I went to strangely was my Granddad and Grans Wedding. My Granddad got remarried aged 80. Your never too old to get married I guess. 

Anyway this wedding was something of a conundrum for me and my boyfriend, First off was the gift we had to give, €200. The system for gifts for the chinese weddings just seem like madness, What you give depends on the friendship and what you give you will receive at your own wedding. 

When we arrived at the restaurant we were given a Tiny red envelope to put our money in by, what can only be called the Best Man I guess, There wasn't really grooms men and bridesmaids or anything like that. Then we put our money in and handed it in to the 2 Chinese Girls sitting at a type of reception table.

Once that was done a long night was to begin, we sat down and had to wait for all the guests to arrive, and of course most of them were fashionably late and by the time food was served, we were all starving lol. There wasn't a scrap left at the table. Waste not want not. 

When the food and games were over, My friends kids were starting to get tired and wanted to go home so my boyfriend suggested i should go home with her because he was going to stay and go to KTV with some of the wedding group.  

Growing through changes...

Well its one thing to look young and another thing to feel young and then to actually be young. Yesterday my little brother the youngest in the family returned from his holiday in Spain with his girlfriend, Although he is the youngest in the family, he is no longer the little brother he used to be. he is all grown up. 19 years old at 190cm tall, and me 24 at a measly 160cm. 

Me and My brother back in 2007 in France

My brother in 2007 in France

Me, Mom, Brother, His Girlfriend, My sister September 2012

Me (looking scary) and My brother on my birthday April 2013

In he came with his suitcase full of all the stories of his holiday, the mistakes he made the trips they took  and so on, It made me nostalgic for my first trip i took without my family to China, I can remember the ups and downs and everything, the argument i had with my mom the night before i flew, the wonderful sights and i saw there, the excitement. 

Me in China, The year of the OX

But there is one thing i feel guilty about, it only dawned on me just now while typing this. Yesterday when my brother got back the first thing my sister said is "Iain where are our gifts?????" that was the most important thing for her, when i went to china i never bought a specific gift for her. II received a lot of jewelry when i was over there and i told her to pick what she liked. I  don't know why, and I think in her own way she still resents me for that in her own way. Its never ever came up. 

My brother produced 4 purses our of his suitcase, and handed me the white and pink one, and then took out 3 similar looking dark rustic coloured purses and handed them to my sister and told her, You. Mom, and Grandma can fight over these. 

I know myself i am probably the easiest person to shop for because if its pink i will love it lol! Anyway I have learned that the most important thing for people is gifts you can give to them and doing it right, putting a bit of thought into the gifts you give even if its just a trinket is important. 

Forgive and Forget

Hi Everyone, 

Greetings from Ireland, let me wipe away the dust and grime from my keyboard and computer screen, I literally can't remember the last time I wrote anything here, The year of the dragon and the year of the snake have not been kind to us, Especially the Snake and that is supposed to be my year after all i was born in the year of the snake 1989. 

I don't want to write this post and fill you all with doom and gloom, but sometimes you just have to accept reality, I remember when i started this blog my biggest worry was to sort out my boyfriends visa problems and we accomplished that paid the solicitor fees, and now we have even bigger hurdles facing us. I hope were going to be strong together and tackle them. 

I know most of the people who read this blog are interested in Asian/ white female relationships, but you know in reality there actually not that different from any ordinary relationship, you still face the same issues, All girls want security and to feel safe, and to live debt free and to be able to trust one another. 

People make mistakes you have to forgive them, if your in it for the long haul. which i hope i am.