Yesterday I had a French Dinner party, with my 2 French friends from work, they are both doing an internship like me, Neither of them are the rude coworker I was talking about in the last post, The last thing I would want to do on a Saturday night is to spend time with her, things have improved at work with her but not dramatically she still gets on my nerves every now and again. This week I had a realization about why she ticks me off. Its because she reminds me of my Mom, The way she talks to me is like how my Mom talks to me when she's giving out to me,
Anyway back to the dinner party, We all agreed to make one dish each and bring it, I was in charge of the starter, Laura was in charge of the Main course and Chloe was in charge of the dessert.
For the Starter I made Fish Cakes, with a little (a lot of) assistance from my boyfriend, I think if I was makeing it by myself it would of been store bought garlic bread heated up in the oven lol.
not as cute as these lol
Laura made Burritos for the main course, I had never tried Burritos before, but it turns out they're pretty much the same as fajitas without the cheese and sour cream sauce,
Then for dessert Chloe bought Terramisu, She didn't have time to cook it.. But nevermind.
We were planning to have Tequila puffs at the dinner party, but quickly changed our mind when we found out tequila costs 24.99 Euro :O:O Crazy price, so instead we had wine and Smirnoff Ice and Rum. Lets say I woke up with a bit of a headache this morning lol.
We spent the whole night listening to French Rap, The only French Rapper I had ever heard was La Fouine!!!!! They introduced me to a lot more,
I got home at about 2 and my boyfriend woke me up at 8 this morning ouch, He had to go to work. But all in all it was a good night. :)
Did you all have a good weekend? How much does Tequila normally cost anyway?
Last night I stayed at my house and watched Sex in the City 1 with my mom and Sex in the city 2 with my sister today and it really made me think about cheating and my own thoughts about it.
I just can't understand why people who cheat always have to tell their boyfriend, partner, husband or whatever what happened. Especially when it was a one time thing that meant nothing. What is the point? to relieve your concience? I just think its so selfish. I think people are better off living in oblivion. If you do something bad you should have to live with that guilt forever.
The inocent person shoudn't have to suffer through that hurt. Then my sister said to me if Michael (My boyfriend) kissed another girl would I not want to know? I really feel I would rather not. Then she said if she kissed another boy she would be living a lie. But isn't that their own fault?
In the past when I was younger maybe 14 or 15, I was bored one morning and my dad's phone was just lying there on the coffee table in the living room and even though I knew my mom had told me so many times, we have to respect peoples privacy and not read their messages I still couldn't resist.
When I read them I found out my Dad was cheating on my mom. Sometimes I think it was an optical illusion, because nothing ever materialised about it, As far as I'm aware my mom never found out about and my parents are still together.
But for 2 or 3 years and even now I had to live with that guilt in my head that I knew something I wasn't supposed to know, because I did something I wasn't supposed to do. It was a huge conflict within me that even to this day have never been able to resolve.
I even had a fair idea who the woman was, although it was only guesswork, the name was quite unusual and put two and two together and got her. I had met her, it was somebody I knew of who I had met a couple of times she was in my Dad's badminton club.
I remember around the time I found out, whenever I got angry with my Dad I always wanted to yell it at my Dad and tell him that I knew what he was doing. I even wanted to tell my mom sometimes but I was scared that (A) I would get in trouble for disobeying her, (B) the consiquences.
One of my uncles wives had an affair and my uncle found out and they got divorced and now his children from that marriage are all messed up. One of them went on drugs and the other well we never see her. So I think I would feel a hell of a lot more guilty if i ruined my sister and brothers family life, because I wanted to put my concience at ease.
I think someday I will tell him that I knew all these years what happened back then perhaps. but I really can't imagine the outcome. Would he scream at me for reading his text messages without his permission? Would he plead with me not to tell my mom? Would he break down and say how sorry he was and it meant nothing? I guess I will never know. I really don't think its worth it.
My boyfriend's family has also struggled with cheating, so don't think Chinese culture is imune to it. My boyfriends dad is the owner of a factory in another town and owns an appartment there and only comes back to the family home once a week or two weeks or a month, or maybe two monthes. My boyfriend doesn't really know and his mom obviously doesn't want to tell him, in case it hurts him.
But its normal for Chinese couples to live like this. I know Chinese couples in Ireland where one lives in the North of Ireland and the other lives in the South and they meet once a week/month whenever they have free time.
But the problem with my boyfriends parents is that. One day his Dad came back to the family home at around dinner time and hadn''t been back for almost two weeks and went bananas when there wasn't any food ready for him Then he called a delivery restaurant and a much younger girl dropped in food for him and she came into the house and started eating with him.
His mom saw this and put two and two together, and there was a bust up. His Dad claimed that, the younger girl was the owner of the restaurant, was a friend of his and he just invited her to join him. whats the problem? and they haven't talked since.
Thats why I am adamant that I really really would rather not know.
I remember the first song I listened to by a Chinese person was Jin- Learn Chinese; I know it’s not a classic Chinese song, but at the time and even now I love rap. So it suited me just fine. Although it never actually inspired me to learn Chinese, I just liked the tune.
During the Christmas holidays, I came across a blog written by an American woman married to a Chinese man. She posted a blog post about “How to get your boyfriend/girlfriend to teach you Chinese” I used some of the techniques she recommended such as to learn how to say the routine things you do every day, Like brush your teeth, turn on the light, take off your shoes and so on. Here is the link to her blog Speaking of China
Anyway I found out early on in the week that I could have improved my Chinese a lot quicker!! One of my friends in college, Xiaoji, has been giving Chinese lessons during the holidays and he never told me even though he knows I want to learn Chinese. So obviously I felt disappointed, I wanted to say something to him but my friend who told me Ma Jin... made me promise me not to mention to XiaoJi that I had heard about the teaching @.@ so secrets are everywhere. Anyway I kept everything inside and was very distant to XiaoJi after that because I just didn't know what to say.
But today all hard feelings were erroded and I got the full story. :) After class XiaoJi met me and said "Sarah I have something for you.... come with me to my dorm..." So I followed him and we were talking and he made me promise not to tell Ma Jin or any other chinese friend that he was giving me this gift! Ahhhh more secrets!!! So I promised. Then I got an opportunity to ask about the Chinese lessons, It turns out he was just teaching one classmate and the lessons only lasted for a week... and he just covered the very basic Ni Hao, Zai Jian, blah blah and explained how to read ping yin. I have already mastered that hahah!
Ma Jin, Me, Nancy & Xiao Ji (In front of the college)
Nancy, XiaoJi, and me (Horrible Photo of me!!)
Then he gave me a really cute gift of Choclates the box was lovely~~!! Chocolate makes everybody Happy ! :)
Chinese men are crazy @.@ at least the ones i know lol! I have one friend, well friend is to strong... Frenemy is better or simply nuisance who has attached himself to me, much to my boyfriend's displeasure. He is a former classmate so i feel i have to accommodate him in my life sometimes. Usually he tries to arrange to meet me in the most inconvenient of times. For example while I was in my new college he asked to meet me several times, on days when i didn't have college, but the thing was he wanted to collect me at my new college... at get this 8AM because that is the time my earliest class would start normally. Which made meeting him feel like a bit of a chore since i hate getting up at 6:45 to get into college for 8'oc. So anytime he tried to organize these sort of meet ups i always canceled because they were outrageous.
Other times he would ask me to meet up with him. i would accept then he would tell me can I make my own way to his house by bus. One bus wouldn't be too bad, but one bus and then a luas and then a walk just sounds totally undesirable and a waste of time. He is the one with a car he should drive to wherever i am, at a time that suits me and collect me at a reasonable time if he wants to see me, Right? Men so so lazy!!
But tomorrow is the limit! He rang me last night and asked am i free on Saturday, honestly, yes, meaning i want to have a lie in because i have no reason to get up early! He said great i will be at your house at 8AM on Saturday morning after i finish in the gym and we can go to the zoo! Mental!! absolutely mental! Just gets crazier and crazier. What a royal pain in the ass! What a sleepy head!
Funnily enough it reminds me of the Oliver Twist classic I'd do anything... Possibly one of the most romantic songs ever made, My situation is the exact opposite!!! His song should be I'd do nothing for you!!
I'd do Anything Nothing
I'd do anything nothing for you dear anythingnothing
for you mean everything
to me
I know that
I'd go anywhere nowhere for your smile anywhere nowhere
for your smile
everywhere I see
Would you climb a hill? anything nothing
Wear a daffodil? anythingnothing
Leave me all your will? anythingnothing
Even fight my Bill?
What fisticuffs?
I'd risk everything for one kiss
everything
Yes I'd do anythingnothing Anything Nothing? Anything Nothing for you
I'd do anythingnothing for you dear anythingnothing
for you mean everything
to me
I know that
I'd go anywhere nowhere for your smile anywhere nowhere
for your smile
everywhere I see
Would you lace my shoe? anything nothing
Paint your face bright blue? anythingnothing
Catch a kangaroo? anything nothing
Go to Timbuktu?
And back again
I'd risk everything for one kiss everythingnothing
Yes I'd do anything nothing AnythingNothing? Anything Nothing for you
I know that
I'd goanywhere nowhere for your smile anywhere nowhere
for your smile
everywhere I see
I know that
I'd do anythingnothing for you dear anything nothing
for you mean everything
to me
To me!
To me!
To me!
To me me me me me!
I'd doanythingnothing for you dear anythingnothing
Yes I'd do anything anythingnothing Anything Nothing for you
Would you rob a shop? anythingnothing
Would you risk the drop? anything nothing
Though your eyes go POP!
Anything
When you come down PLOP!
Hang everything
We'd risk life and limb
To keep you in the swim
Yes we'd do anythingnothing
Anything? anythingnothing for you
Well hopefully i can persuade him to collect me a bit later.... as his plan for us were actually quite sweet he wanted to go to the zoo and i love the zoo :) and i can take a lot of photos there. But who knows perhaps something else will crop up and delay him.... Most of you reading this will probably think this guy is all talk and even if he said 8AM there is no way he would actually go there at time, but actually he is one of the most reliable and punctual persons i have ever met. If he says wait 3 minutes and i will be there he actually will be there. During the snowy weather we had in Ireland before Christmas both of my parents were unable to go to work because the snow was so bad around our house, He rang me at 10'oc that day and said what am i doing, obviously i was stuck at home because i hate walking on slippy icy snow. He told me ok i will be there in 1 hour i want you to come to see my house and build a snow girl with me ^^ I didn't even bother getting ready to go out. I thought there's noway he would get here from Tallaght. but sure enough 11'oc on the dot i looked out the window and there he was parked outside!
Although he may be rather inconsiderate and likes to suit himself, He is one of the most reliable and punctual people i have ever met! Also he is an incredibly good chef. He can cook the most delicious food!
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